What’s the priority? Do we use our conscious?
A statement from a well educated black man who come from a black womens womb. I’m sick and tired of these type of men comparing black women to others. I tell you, when hearing a black man explain how the opposite scientific race take better care of themselves, marring more than the black women, and maintain better relationships than the black women. Immediately, my heart breaks!
So many things I wanted to address. Instead, I simply listened. I set and listened to the tunnel of hurt in his heart. I felt pitty for his soul.
First, there isn’t a comparison…….. We are the originals. But, give me a moment to entertain the tomfoolery.
Fact # 1 IT (I use the term it. It can be defined in so many forms. It can be used as the subject, object, or complement of a verb or the object of a preposition. referring to something that has been mentioned. ) can be a challenge focusing on a Relationship leading towards marriage with the 100 responsibilities we are forced to face.
Many of us ‘so called working class women’ desire to marry, scholars have identified barriers related to economic instabilities, challenges that undermine long-term relationship success (e.g., difficulty trusting, current relationship problems, pain from past relationships, inequities in human capital between partners, fears of divorce) and concerns about readiness for marriage (e.g., lack of skills and preparedness for marriage)
Truth be told. The scholars finding isn’t everyone reality.
Let me stay on topic. Again, its a challenge to up keep our households, children, work, and the many other responsibilities. We always here Be accountable, stay relevant. Let’s talks about always having to demand respect every where we go. Being called angry or irritate when you open your mouth to make a point. Attempting to keep a level head. Keeping our cool. Not allowing the world 🌎 to burden us down. To narrow it down to keep our fucking insanity.
Many of us are forced to make a decision to workout or rest from working like a slave all dang day. We have time management, were strategic, we produce results every moment of our life.
Only to come home tooooooo…. Maybe if we had more Black men to step up and take there rightful place in the home. Instead of stressing many women out with the make believe life, lies, deception, and many other forms of mental abuse. Let’s not address the multiple women, many of us face at one point or the other. Just maybe if more men step up, maybe we can find time to focus on our internal being. Focus more on self care and self maintenance.
Soooo!
Many of us so called Black Women our black men say we don’t take care of ourselves better than the opposite race.
Black man, we have learned to adjust, many of us are happy to remain unmarried, given uncertainties about the permanency of marriage or the desire to concentrate on professional lives (e.g., education, jobs) and personal responsibilities (e.g., parenting, caring for our families, community, building a legacy.)
Don’t get me wrong the Black community still respect the institution of marriage and its symbolic value (Banks, 2011; Edin & Reed, 2005; Marks et al., 2008).
Hearing a heart felt comment from a man I admire, respect, and looked up too. His opinion once mattered.
I must add a Conscious put down of the Black Women in any form is a disservice to the growth of our community and future leaders. We have to do better by coming up with an agile strategy, deployment, execution, and be aware of our conscious mind. One day we can deliver tangible results across the board and bring about a level of respect for our own people.
In the meantime, you can judge me, spit on my name, talk down to me. The end results black man you set in a black woman womba for 9 months. So, be careful when you belittle us.
Ethel Mindset 